I think its bullshit.
Sure, as we evolve in life we can become stronger as we experience more and more.. but no I don't think I believe everything happens for a reason.
I have no good reason that on September 27, 2012 my sister came home to a screaming baby. A baby that was supposed to be under the watchful eye and care of a nanny who was carefully hired by loving parents. Yet, this baby, my precious niece was screaming in pain as she was burned all over her fragile head, neck and shoulders. Yes, the nanny was arrested, did jail time and my niece has since recovered, but I do not see the reason that this happened even 4 years later.
My best friend has had cancer and multiple miscarriages. Can you think of a reason that the year she turned 30 I found her crying, with her head in the fridge because she had been told she has cancer? A message that would require several operations which ultimately made carrying a baby to term near impossible- when being a mom was the one thing she always knew she wanted to be. Yes, she is pregnant now and due in a couple weeks, but I don't have a reason to give her about all her lost babies not on this earth with her today. It can't be justified.
Things just happen, and sometimes those things that happen are simply tragic. I feel as if the tragic so to speak has been taking its toll recently. Every where I turn bad things are happening and they are happening without reason to people I know, love and care about, and also to people I don't know but I still feel so much heart break for them.
Recently a dear friend of mine shared with me that her step son unexpectedly died. She is an amazing woman who loves all people unconditionally as if they were family. I know she loved this boy so deeply and I can't even imagine the grief she feels personally, but also the heart ache she is experiencing as she supports her husband during this time as well. Yeah, I don't see a reason that can justify this child's death- there simply isn't a reason. It is just horrible.
Three weeks ago a lovely woman I used to work with contacted me on Facebook. Actually through a Facebook profile picture change of the friend I mentioned above. The lady contacted me to tell me how I had always been such a great interpreter for her and had wondered where I had run off to. She was so surprised I had moved to Scotland, but took time to express appreciation for my work with her years ago. Her contact made my week. Just a short while later, she was in a car accident and didn't survive. Like with my friend's step son, I don't see a reason that I can justify her death either. How can anyone tell her daughter she is now motherless for a reason. No.. I don't see a silver lining. It is just sad and I write this with a heavy heart. I am so very sorry for your loss of your mom. There is no good reason this happened.
I was recently deeply saddened by the death of UCLA's Professor Klug. He was reported to be kind and brilliant, a rare blend in Academia. He was a husband, a father, a coach and an educator. He was hunted down and taken out in a murder/suicide on UCLA's campus. Although I don't know him, know his family or even the students that he taught, Professor Klug was a member of my academic community, he was a educator, he was just trying to make a difference in the lives of his students. It could have been me. It could have been one of my close colleagues. I don't believe there is one good reason he was taken from this earth this way and I am overwhelmed with sadness that schools and university campuses are places where students and teachers may no longer feel safe.
In the last few days my Facebook feed has filled up with reports of a missing woman. A young woman, close to my age, a mother of four. She is Deaf and a BSL user. She was last seen on CCTV in the wee hours of Sunday morning. She is missing. I have not had the opportunity to meet her, but she is a friend of my friends, she is a part of the Deaf community that I love and care about. I hope to God she is safe. I don't see the reason for this.. It is just scary and my heart is aching for her, her family and her friends.
I certainly do not believe for one second that 49 people from the LGBT community had to be brutally murdered for a "reason" in Orlando. Or any other victim of a mass shooting for that matter. There are no benefits.. no reasons. No, it just pure evil, deep hate, and absolute horror that is fueling both fear and continued violence. I love my friends of the LGBT community, and I do not want them to be afraid. Not only do I not want them to be afraid, I don't want any of my fellow Americans to be afraid to go to school, shopping, to the movies- or to a night club.
Not only am I sad, but I am angry. I am angry that it is so easy for people to obtain guns. It makes me angry that I am scared to reside again in my homeland because there have been 133 mass shootings this year alone-and we are only into June. It overwhelms me. Certainly, someone could try to argue that this will be the shooting that changes everything. Sure maybe things will finally change (although I doubt it), but I don't believe that 207 people should have had to die over the course of 2016 to make these changes... changes should have happened long before now.
So what is the purpose of this post? I don't know. I know I keep saying it, but yeah, I am just sad. I am sad for the lives of all people who are facing direct unexpected and unwarranted tragedy. I am sad that we live in a world where human diversity and uniqueness is not valued or considered beautiful like it should be. I am sad and angry that those differences cause people to live in fear of each other. Fear that one difference could be the very difference that makes one bad person end your existence or mine.
Yeah, I don't have a reason things have happened, but I do acknowledge the fact that there are many people in the world scared, hurting, angry and sad. I stand with you, I support you and I am so sorry that you have gone through or going through difficult and unexplainable circumstances that cause you such pain and sorrow.