For a long time I would have said that yes they do speak louder. However, recently I have come to a realization- I believe that actions and words both speak volumes, they just have to align.
A bunch of words with no follow through is not going to lead to a desired outcome, but I also believe that action without a pause for some communication can also create problems.
Words may have been said- but did they align with what happened? Did they validate your feelings? Or did they make you feel worse? Did they hold depth for what was to come? Sometimes you get to the point that words seem pointless and even more hurtful, especially when you think maybe this is the time that your feelings will actually be seen, heard, acknowledged and efforts (actions) will be made to make things better for good not a temporary fix. And so you wait for the right words, aligned with the right actions to show you what you are deep down hoping for. Which then again, could just be setting yourself up for disappointment- having false expectations tends to do that.
Or..words were not being said at all... and actions were not taken which basically leaves you to stir in your own insecurities trying to make sense of whatever that situation may be. Hopefully, if you are like me, at some point you break- you communicate your feelings you speak some words and do something to clear the air. And then you wait, you wait for talk and you wait for the aligned walk. Without the talk, you might feel like your feelings are not validated and without the action you may then feel like the talk was just some more talk.
I have seen people on the spectrum- all talkers or all walkers.I have to say, I like the balance of both.
Just some ramblings from a girl on a journey.